When confronted by the resentments of the past, it seems a startling idea, but we can decide how we think and feel about our experiences. We can control our feelings and can change how we feel about the painful situations of the past. Mind is cause, never effect—never a victim. Circumstances, situations and actions of others never control our thinking—we do. As Paul says, “be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind…” (Romans 12:2) We don’t have to conform our thoughts or feelings to what we see, hear or experience, but instead can renew our thinking—finding new ways to think about the past, and through this process, find transformation.
When we allow our thoughts and feelings to conform to our experiences, we allow those experiences to act as a mold for our thought patterns and thought-feelings, and allow them to perpetuate our suffering needlessly.
We can begin this process by being willing to think a new thought.
I am ready to move on—to see this experience of the past from a spiritual perspective—through the eyes of Mind—not the eyes of the flesh. I am willing for my thoughts surrounding these events to be new ones. I now decide to dissolve these old patterns of thinking with their accompanying thought-feelings. Divine Mind holds no grudges or resentments. Divine Mind knows the right way to think about these events of my past, and that Mind is my mind now. I am listening to God’s divine ideas. As God’s expression, I can never be a victim.